“Beautiful” women shouldn’t have to be feminine. From the time we were little, we’ve had Barbie dolls with proportioned breasts and butts thrown at us with matching feminine attire and a few too many pink accessories. Not all of our mothers looked like this, nor our grandmothers or our aunts, so why do we continue to support this messaging? I have aunts that haven’t worn a pair of heels in their lives! I couldn’t pay some of my female friends to wear a dress if Oprah’s inheritance was on the line (okay, maybe that’s a bit drastic). On the natural side, how many women do we know who could rival some men in physical stature? By solely promoting femininity as beautiful, what type of message does that deliver about the inclusiveness of womanhood? What are we teaching some of our current young girls about beauty and sisterhood? How are you shaping the definition of womanhood? Are you forcing a make-up bag and dress into the arms of your friend, sister, or daughter?
Whether we are masculine by choice or natural design, there should be a space for our reflections to be beautiful amongst other women. This is not about male acceptance; this is an intrinsic conversation amongst all of us who share this wonderful, yet challenging, experience of being a woman. While beauty starts from within, self-confidence can be propelled through the strong support of sisterhood. Remember the women who uplifted you when you doubted yourself. It is no different here.
The next time you see a masculine woman, tell her that she is beautiful. She’s not pretending to be something she is not. She simply is expressing herself without barriers, pretenses, or femininity.
Alright, so my best friend Kayla and I are moving into a different apartment at the end of October. It will be a two bedroom in Astoria Queens. We need two more room mates so we can split the rent four ways. The total cost of the place will not be more than 2,000 dollars a month (which means each room mate only has to pay 500… Tops!). So If you’r interested in moving to NYC or you know someone who is, just e-mail me or post somthing in my ask box. My e-mail adress is firstname.lastname@example.org .
So about two years ago, we had got some new neighbors, and two years has past. The family had 7 children, all older then me. two still lived at home a boy and a girl and they went to the local community college (correction: the girl was beautiful). Okay so today my mom comes in my room and she was like ohh I was talking to Kelly today (Kelly lives across the street, she lives there with her partner Moreen. They are lesbians) and Kelly tells my mom that the girl next door to me is a lesbian and is always at her house with her girlfriend! My mom laughs and says ohh too bad he didn’t know when he was a lesbian HAHAHHAHAHA. Jesus.
If there is one thing I’m sick of it’s straight trans guys flipping out over “ZOMG T’S GONNA TURN ME INTO A FAG!”
First of all, there is absolutely no evidence to prove that increased T levels have…
i think t is making me more comfortable with my body, since it’s becoming what i imagine it to be, and that in turn is making me more open with my sexuality.
as a lesbian, i was extremely chivalrous, and i still kind of am but not for chivalry’s sake. i would open a door for anyone, not just womyn, because it’s a nice thing to do. however, i didn’t know i was trans at the time, so i think it was my way of being as masculine as i could be given my circumstances. in a heteronormative chauvinistic society, i became a heteronormative (only subconsciously at the time) chauvinist. since coming out as trans and making strides towards becoming more comfortable in the skin i’ve always seen myself in, has not changed my sexuality, but made me ready to see that it is there. that it is different than my gender identity and that i was really conflating the two issues all along, because our culture refuses to provide answers for the people with the questions that i had.
so, yes, t has brought out the gay in me in a sense but in an indirect manner and not in the way that so many trans-men, for godless knows what reason, fear.
t doesn’t make you gay, that is just ridiculous.
it’s the simple fact that pre-t, most transmen have a lot of insecurities around other men and have a lot jealousy towards them because they are everything they wish they could be. once on t, a lot of those insecurities disappear because aside from a few obvious things like a y chromosome and a fully functional penis, there is very little difference between the body of a transman and a non transman.